Monday, March 17, 2008

Paul Coussens


My friend died.

He was a lion if I ever met one. Fought cancer for seven years, and ultimately didn't die of it. In fact, I didn't even know he was sick. He was my best friend Valencia's father, and a really cool guy. Free spirit. Lived life with gusto.

Paul was incredibly kind and supportive of me. Very proud. He, Valencia and his ex-wife and son ended up in the film, too. One of the days he was on the set, he was so concerned about my stress levels and how hard I was working, he took me for a long ride through the vineyards and told me to scream. How great is that?? Let me tell you, on a movie set you have to have your own friends shipped in to notice you and take care of you, because no one else is going to.

God, I feel so guilty. I was supposed to be with them in Tahoe just three weeks ago, and he was so excited because I was going to come up and show them all the movie, but instead I stayed longer with Todd and kept editing...

And Valencia's 6 months pregnant with her first child...

I feel awful. My heart is all shriveled up.

Can't believe I was thinking of Valencia all last week and didn't call.

I should have learned this lesson in spades by now, but please people, put your people first in your lives...





7 comments:

Heidi said...

I can't believe it! I am SO happy you had the good sense to put him in the film so we'll always have that to remember him by.

spacemonqui said...

That sucks your friend died, The Big Casino is not fun. That you were able to honor him in your project is neat. But-you post quite a lot regarding safe living & lifestyles in your blog...so to run a shot of yourself riding in one of those skullcap helmets is crazy. That's slightly more effective than an upside-down KFC bucket. If you've ridden on rallies where people wear those or pudding bowl type helmets 'cause they wanna "look cool"-then there's mishaps, they're lucky if they only need emergency dentistry. Full-face Snell approved is always the way to go; http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Snell_Memorial_Foundation

Anonymous said...

Paul is a great man ,father, and friend.
I will always love him,and am happy for the time we had together the love was Grand....He will forever live in our sons heart ,and mine,he was my sons Best Friend,...I will protect Tanner,and hear your words always...Love you,Lia

Anonymous said...

hey papa, I love you and miss you. You are the best PaPa anyone could ever ask for. Thank you for writing this of this great man!

Winter said...

Oh my god, I'm so sorry to hear that! May he rest in peace.

All the best,
Winter

Anonymous said...

This is one man who will NEVER be forgotten. He was simply the best!!!

tree guy said...

I am on the board of directors with Paul Coussens in sanat rosa,ca.For Rincon Valley Little League. He is a board member and will always be a board member. We will be missed.Rest in peace Paul.
This season is dedicated to you.
Steve
VP