Thursday, March 13, 2008

Are you a lion or a gazelle?

There's a famous statistic that men think about sex once every 60 seconds. There's some dispute at what man st/age that's relevant, but nonetheless...It's accepted that women think about it MUCH less. Like once a day-ish.

Now what we are closer to thinking about as much as men think about sex is...rape.

Why? Well on average, 1.3 of us are raped every 60 seconds. Even in America at any given gathering you're at, look around the room and know that the conservative stat is that 1 out of 4 women has been raped. Usually by someone they married, or dated, or were friends with.

Even with vast improvements, pregnancy-related complications worldwide still account for a female death a minute as well. Don't think our female DNA doesn't know that. For women, everytime we have sex we are risking our lives. That's part of why it's such a big stinking deal to us.

So the next time you're flirting with a strange woman, remember you have to give her time to get on your wavelength. Because she's not got the luxury of single-focus evaluating if she's attracted to you. Her diffuse awareness is on where she is, if she's safe, if you're a creep, if she's dressed "too provactively" (to be judged by a jury of her peers), and what exactly it is you want from her.

She is a gazelle in high heels, alone on the tundra in front of a lion who either wants to devour her, or have her take a sliver out of his paw and become her fuzzy protector.

How good do you think we are at knowing the difference?

Say you're at, I don't know, BLOCKBUSTER, and there are three of you lions circling and flirting with her at once as you pin her against the cash register, and she looks really confused and skittish as she tosses out bon mots about Will Smith and Team America to hold you all at bay...

It might take her five minutes after she's fled to the safety of her locked SUV to realize that actually you were kind of sweet and funny and had good taste in movies and had pretty eyes when she was able to meet your eye contact and DIDN'T hurt her as you followed her around the store watching her select DVDs...

So it's not always about you...and if you want to ever get further with a woman, it might be helpful to be aware of the hurdles she's leaping over in stilletos either at you or away from you...
Confidently offer her companionship so she can make a choice other than survival...

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