Just received this from an old friend:
"It doesn't do anyone any good to feel guilty all the time. In fact, it's self-absorbed. In an attempt to get over myself, I made a sign for my apartment that said HOUSE OF LOVE AND BRAGGING. I decided to put my sign up because I'd found--months after that fact!--that good things were happening underground. Friends knew their bad news would be welcomed and comforted, but what about sharing when good things happen? At times I kept good news private, because I honestly thought I should protect my new friends, in case they couldn't handle hearing it and somehow would drop a piano on my head. Which is really condescending and annoying. The result was wonderful. I felt bouyed by their vulnerability in sharing something they were proud of. I, in turn, told more people when things were going well in my own life. Everyone could handle it just fine."
- Aimee Bender, "House of Love and Bragging," The Modern Jewish Girl's Guide to Guilt
I'm rewatching the original Red Shoe Diaries - The Movie today, and I still love it just as much as I did fifteen years ago. So brilliant. Has any other straight director ever understood women this well? I can't think of one. The whole movie gives me chills. What women want, what we feel, what turns us on, what we're like when men aren't around, how we want sex to look and sound, that pesky control issue in relationships...it's all there. And the psychology of how her controlling mother, fiancee and lover all back the main character into a corner where she kills herself totally works for me. Love love love it. Too bad the TV series was more mood than psychology.